Posted in LIFE, Random, Reflections, vent

CAN WE LEARN TO CORRECT OTHERS APPROPRIATELY

When correcting someone it is better to approach them in a calm and subtle manner. There are people who feel the need to shout at you as if you are deaf. Even though you were can they really restore your hearing? Some seek out to go and revenge as though doing what you did to them will make you do things right. Then there are those who keep quiet about the issue either to bring it up later or to be destroyed by it. If you were to ask me this is the worst form of punishment there is especially you are being destroyed by it. Firstly it injures the one keeping quiet as there is no way for them to let out what they feel. Secondly, it injures the one who made the mistake. They will spend days wondering what they did and why someone is treating them indifferently. Other bad behavior is when you stand in front of an affected group and say there are some other people in here…. First of all, if it is some … why are you telling us all? Secondly, everyone starts doubting themselves except those who have never committed the offense which is probably no one. The one’s who doubt themselves most are those who probably committed the offense in the recent past. You may be referring to repeat offenders who may not even realize what they do. It is better you approach someone and tell them their mistake and how it is hurting you or others involved. Talk to someone they probably do not realize what they do.

Even the Bible gives us guidelines on making peace with those who offend us in Mathew 18: 25-40  

15 “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. 16 But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’ 17 If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector.18 “Truly I tell you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.19 “Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. 20 For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”

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Posted in humour, LIFE, Musings, Reflections, this is it, vent

THOUGHTS AND TRAITS OF PRESENT DAY WRITERS

Writers in this day and age go through a lot in all spheres of where writing is concerned .

here are just but a few

1) They buy many fancy books as they console themselves they will use to write on but a good number of them are barely used.

2) They buy many books intended for the same use – e.g 3 different books to be used for writing daily experiences.

3) They get disturbed if they have not written in a long time.

4) They have an official personal blog and another blog for other purposes.

5) They have many ideas about everything they see.

6) They complain of underpaying gigs.

7) They have that thought that crosses their mind about full-time writing as the chief source of income.

8) They want to be recognized countrywide such as be called to write for drum,Truelove or a local magazine.

9) They have dreams of international recognition for example perform at P4CM ( Passion 4 Christ Movement).

10) Other non understanding citizens complain of their jobs for instance her  … she is just a blogger couldn’t she have studied print media or technology.

11) The students being asked to divert their energy to writing related courses yet the same people are against those who write professionally.

12) Being made the secretary in school,work and in other circles as people  make the excuse of you like writing so it’s your job now.

13) People giving you non professional work to do for them such as their school projects and reports so that you can do it for them at no cost because of reasons like si you are my friend and words is your thing.

14) Someone giving you a book review to do after whinnying of how much school work you have.

15) Thinking of projects you can do with other writers but you find out in order to get there you need to have a stable source of income.

16) if you study psychology , after writing a blog post you are accused of diagnosing your friends.

17) Your writing comes in the way of your assignments. You always think you will write your stuff the whole semester but still finish your assignments.

18) People hating on your guest bloggers because their style is different from yours.

19) Being added to a Whats App group full of creatives  who do not sleep so you wake up to 4500 messages.

20) The best of stories come when you are occupied by other stuff and disappear the just before you wind up with whatever it is you were doing.

21)Plagiarism When you notice a website with a horrible name is busy showcasing your work and the only consolation you have for yourself is that only good art is stolen.

22) When someone rants about your blog having slowed down yet you are nursing writers block.

23) When you are in the middle of writing an interesting story and KPLC becomes your mess and you lose your interesting story.

24) People telling you to publish yet you will see them online asking for free PDF copies of Chimamanda’s books.

25) Wondering how to categorize your blog because it is eclectic. You have no specific thing that you talk about.

26) Enjoying the mix of things you do in life because it’s amazing.

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Posted in LIFE, Musings, Reflections, vent

HIGH COURT JUDGES OF SOCIAL MEDIA

I recently took a break from walking in the courts, sharing my opinion, life, talents in these courts and seeing verdicts being passed in line with the opinion laws. Others have been sentenced and some have been freed. But the tragedy in all this is that most of those who visit these courts are mentally held. They cannot think instead they are subject to the laws of opinion.

If as of now you cannot link my topic with my words you either are among the few who have never stepped foot in these courts or you are still enslaved. If the latter is you I urge you to break the chains  of –MENTAL SLAVERY). Moreover there could be a need for you to sit down and think about it critically.

I despise the fact that social media sounds a bit like school. ARE WE REALLY IMPARTING EDUCATION OR IGNORANCE?Over the years there have been debates that school teaches us what to think and not how to think which is true. Grounds of innovation are being poisoned through the effects of school.

I logged off all my social media accounts for at least five days on the close of November to the beginning of December 2016. During this time I felt that I had acquired back my human nature. I am not the one easily influenced by people’s opinions because I have a mind of my own -I can think. What I mean is that I was able to get in touch with people more than when my accounts were online.

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On logging back in everyone wants a like and a comment under their post. Some even bashed for the fact that I was offline as if social media determines life.

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Then I see posts like while you were away… Sincerely speaking must I wait for Thursday to post a memory of a season in my life that passed ages ago on the norm of T $ Cs apply? I am not saying there is anything wrong with that but society has determined who we are to the point that we forget ourselves. We have ruined our marriages, friendships and family because naysayers will always say Nay and we will follow them blindly.

Allow me to say that some people’s lives on social media is a lie. But some of you believe their very strategic an organized lies that we believe that is who they really are.

I do not just accept all friend requests and you find that people will always want to crucify me for this. I do not always like every pic and comment under every post because entertaining evil online is entertaining evil in real life. Encouraging a lie is just like living a lie.

Some will ask …Then why are you still using social media networks and I will say as for Lorraine she will still do the right thing and even on that platform. She will encourage someone to be better but will not force her values down anyone’s throat. Most of all she will not wear your labels. Lorraine will also be publishing soon but she cannot afford what the media demands since they are also spoilers at times. However she will use her space widely to give to the society what she can.

Therefore pick your gavels if you will, pass your verdict but I will not be sentenced.