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CAN WE LEARN TO CORRECT OTHERS APPROPRIATELY

When correcting someone it is better to approach them in a calm and subtle manner. There are people who feel the need to shout at you as if you are deaf. Even though you were can they really restore your hearing? Some seek out to go and revenge as though doing what you did to them will make you do things right. Then there are those who keep quiet about the issue either to bring it up later or to be destroyed by it. If you were to ask me this is the worst form of punishment there is especially you are being destroyed by it. Firstly it injures the one keeping quiet as there is no way for them to let out what they feel. Secondly, it injures the one who made the mistake. They will spend days wondering what they did and why someone is treating them indifferently. Other bad behavior is when you stand in front of an affected group and say there are some other people in here…. First of all, if it is some … why are you telling us all? Secondly, everyone starts doubting themselves except those who have never committed the offense which is probably no one. The one’s who doubt themselves most are those who probably committed the offense in the recent past. You may be referring to repeat offenders who may not even realize what they do. It is better you approach someone and tell them their mistake and how it is hurting you or others involved. Talk to someone they probably do not realize what they do.

Even the Bible gives us guidelines on making peace with those who offend us in Mathew 18: 25-40  

15 “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. 16 But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’ 17 If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector.18 “Truly I tell you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.19 “Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. 20 For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”

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USEFUL SKILLS WE ARE NOT TAUGHT IN SCHOOL

 

Truth be told- our education system does not teach us what is really important in life. Almost all what we are taught can actually be found on the web. The Internet is developing so rapidly that robots will be doing what humans are currently doing yet we are still using the same system our parents used and learning the same things that our grandparents learned.

We live our children to figure things out on their own. Some will argue it is the role of parenting but truth be told children need to learn the facts even as they learn the skills.

However, before we get carried away here are some of the classes we should have sat but didn’t (or that children need to sit).

FINANCES

Most people are wallowing in debt and have poor skills of handling finances whether they have little or much. Some take loans and do not know how to repay them. Some earn a lot of money but are living in poverty. Our parents want us to get high profile jobs so that we don’t have to go through the struggle they went through but the truth is without good financial skills we will be worse of than they ever were in their lifetime. School teaches us we need to be employed- you know study to get a good degree – but we are not taught how to employ. We are taught that we have to tarmac but we are not taught we can be entrepreneurs. We are not taught that wealth is not created by how much we spend but how much we save. For instance here in Kenya, the currency used is the Kenyan shilling. If we compared our currency to the world’s most powerful then our currency is very weak. For instance, 1 US$ is equivalent to KSH 100. In the present day, the price of a liter of fuel is KSH 100. Let me shock you a bit in 1935 the price of a liter of oil was 0.98 cents. See the difference. That is why everything is expensive –because of the inflation in the worth of a shilling. I have seen someone earning forty thousand shillings –they buy shares and stokes and through that, they are able to start their own business. On the other hand, I have seen someone earning 1.5 M shillings but they buy branded clothes, the most expensive car, lives under the rent of 60 000 per month, buys expensive watches and so on. Basically, live an expensive life but live in poverty. The difference between the two is where they invest their money. Therefore there is a really need to teach about personal finances in schools.

SAFETY AND SELF DEFENSE

There are increased cases of insecurity in the world today but people do not know how to keep themselves safe. People are learning from experience instead of learning from the desk. Con men and gangsters are getting new ways to display and exercise their skills by each passing day. You can either 1) shelter yourself from the evil or 2) use skills to combat the evil when it arises. There are situations when you have to comply with the demands of the attackers and there are situations where you need to attack for example in a case of a rape pepper spray and your fists /physical strength may be applicable. Beware of con men because they have mastered their skills and if you have none to combat theirs then you are likely to become a victim.

MENTAL HEALTH

People get concerned when someone’s head is ailing or in cases where there is a lack of physical health but in a case of mental health such as depression an individual is not given proper care or support. We laugh at anxious people not knowing we are making their situation worse instead of helping them to improve. People need to be educated on the reality of mental health. How to support someone with a mental health illness, how to show empathy and compassion and how to accept the individual as they are as you help them through it. Individuals also need to be taught prevention mechanisms such as how to cope with the hard knocks of life, how to avoid burn out and how to relax.

SOCIAL SKILLS

People need to be taught how to start a conversation and how to sustain one. Most people start a conversation but in the process cannot continue with it. Or start a conversation and do not have speech courtesy. They are inappropriate in what they do and /or say in that conversation. For others, they lack negotiation skills-their deals are vague. The conversation includes networking. Have you been to a place where people do not talk to each other? Technology has ruined us and this brings me to the next point.

HOW TO SURVIVE WITHOUT TECHNOLOGY

Most people are lost in technology. You are sited among a group of people who deserve your attention but your hands are itching for that phone. Our children no longer play with each other but spend the whole day on the television. The laptops are portable and are therefore being carried everywhere even when they are not necessary. Next time you are in a gathering please care about the creation of God that is in his image sited next to you more than your smartphone.

THE LAW

When most people are arrested the first thing they say is – I know my rights… but if you ask them what those rights are high chances they do not know. Ignorance of the law will not keep you out of criminal justice. Ignorance of the law is forbidden. Students should be taught, at a bare minimum, the laws that might have an effect on their lives as they are in school and as they graduate and enter society as fully culpable adults. They should be aware of laws that protect them such as the right to emergency medical care – you should not be forced to pay three hundred thousand to be admitted to hospital or pay for a service by an ambulance so as to receive healthcare.

Conclusion

Repair our sick education system and teach us about life in real.

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HAPPY ANNIVERSARY

MAY 5th 2015 is the date Lorraine Wangari Written was set up. I had a blogger but it did not last long in fact the first posts on my WordPress are the only posts in my blogger.  I fell in love with WordPress because of the themes and outlook. This is not to say that blogger is bad or is not stylish enough… NO ! There is a lot you can do with a blogger site. However I had come across many WordPress sites and i thought that there is indeed much you can customize on a site that you need to check the terms and conditions box. A site that advertises itself with a link that is said to be yours but is still WordPress owned.

speaking of customization i have changed the link twice but the current one in use is there to stay. I have also changed the themes too many times and in several occasions it was due to public demand.  some argued my themes were genderhttps://wordpress.com/post/lorrainewangariwritten.wordpress.com/1171 biased , others felt it was too plain and others felt it was less creative. in many occasions I too felt the same way and felt i need to change it. I do not know what you think about the current one but I personally feel it is suitable for all the audiences.

I have found the blog to be very useful in knowing what it means to be a good writer as i found the process both exhilarating and exciting. writers block has been real and thanks to your support … for you have kept me going. You have been good readers and good critiques at the same time and i say thank you for your overwhelming support.

however the purpose of this post is 1) To thank you for your support 2) To allow you to celebrate this milestone in my life 3) To seek your ideas on what could be better in this blog. Tell me what should and shouldn’t change. This is not only my blog but yours too. What do you think can entertain, challenge, outrage or uplift you even more.  it is our chance to rethink and revamp Lorraine Wangari Written. Speaking of revamping the only option i do not have is to delete this blog. However if you would like to do just that … delete the internet by  clicking here other than that share with me in the comment section below or drop an email at lorrainewangari.lw@gmail.com

furthermore it is your chance to share your favorite posts in the comment section

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A SHORT JOURNEY

One cold bitter night a girl walks with quick steps back home. The more she walks ,the faster she moves. No turning back ,she just continues to walk. Before she could take another turn she is hit from behind. Blood is oozing from her skull. The thieves fish into her bag. They give to themselves her money. Three thousand shillings in cash. One with a torch in hand spots a ring on her finger. He grabs it and almost ripping her finger off.
Early the next morning a lady in a Kitenge  passes by this road of slaughter. She almost trips from a hand outstretched from the bush. She turns and the first thing she says Anabelle! Anabelle! It was her mother. Tears drip down her chicks as she looks at the lifeless body of her only girl. Next to the body is a phone which looks very familiar – it belongs to her child who is no more. She picks it up and In denial she screams… Anabelle please wake up.  An ambulance comes loudly with its siren almost as if to say make way. At the city hospital she is pronounced dead on arrival.
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The next day at about 2 am a call is received on the Late Anabelle’s phone and the user calling is saved as BFF.
The mum’s head is spinning BFF… BFF …BFF … then she picks it up
” Hello”
” Hello mama Bella”
” Hi ”
At this point mama Bella’s voice sounds low…
On realizing this BFF says…
“Could I speak to Bella…”
“Leila I know you will be taken a back but Bella is gone …. She is gone Leila ….she is gone… She was attacked by thugs and now she is gone”

In disbelief Leila hangs up… runs to her room, sits down and cries.
In her mind she is thinking….
” In the morning we were laughing online and now she is gone … No…No…Noooo”
Denial creeps into her mind she cannot comprehend .
“Bella… Why did they do such a thing to her? What did she do to deserve such a  of gruesome death from people who probably do not know her?” WHY?
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It was sombre mood at the burial. One by one all who knew Bella spoke of her great life. Hearing the eulogy being read you could tell it was the truth. Her life as it  was – no added flavors or subtracted ingredients.
Leila sat still and sang along with the other mourners

God be with you till we meet again;
By his counsels guide, uphold you;
With his sheep securely fold you.
God be with you till we meet again.
(Chorus)
Till we meet, till we meet,
Till we meet at Jesus’ feet,
Till we meet, till we meet,
God be with you till we meet again.

Leila thought quietly. She was a prayer partner. Her soul is in a better place. I know it for sure.